My husband and I, having gotten married young, used to joke that by the time we were old we would always win the contest at weddings for the last couple standing. But especially in our earlier years, imagining getting from here to my eighties with my husband could sometimes feel impossible. I couldn’t fathom how…
My reputation has always been important to me. I am constantly trying to impress people. I will manipulate a situation as much as needed in order to make everything perfect. Once, when my husband and I were dating, I made him leave my apartment in the middle of a snowstorm, refusing him the safety of…
“Love is an earthquake meant to relocate the center of our universe,” writes Mike Mason in his brilliant book, The Mystery of Marriage. I wish I had known that this was to be expected. During our first decade of marriage, the tectonic plates shifted and pitched me off balance so frequently that I assumed I…
There are phases and seasons in a marriage. You have the “honeymoon” phase where everything just feels magical and the whole world looks friendly because of the love you feel in your heart to each other. You have the “golden years” phase. After being married for 30 or more years, life is comfortable and safe…
There is no relationship quite like marriage to test our patience and our ability to “play well” with others. Once the wedding is a part of our story and the everyday of life as a married couple begins, we all experience that moment when we think to ourselves, “This is harder than I thought it…
