For Rick and Linda, both of their first marriages were destroyed by selfishness that masqueraded as “needs.” Linda’s husband was narcissistic—everything was about meeting his needs, including his gambling and sexual addictions. For Rick, his first wife left him for another man whom she thought would meet her “needs” better than Rick could. Rick was…
Money is one of the greatest stressors in most marriages, but especially in second marriages it can be that much more challenging. It’s extremely important to talk about your financial expectations, goals, dreams, and plans. Sometimes it’s easy to carry over money troubles from your past marriage. Hannah did just that. When they were first…
The parenting factor is always interesting, and usually challenging, in blending a family and in remarriage life. And if one of you doesn’t have children, this may be extra challenging, especially if you’re a woman. As a new bride, you’ll be instantly sharing your husband with his children, and you may experience feelings of resentment,…
Sex before marriage can hinder and even damage your chance for real intimacy. The myth that it’s okay to have premarital sex only masquerades as love and intimacy. The argument that you have to experience it in order to understand it or be good at it is also a myth. Be careful not to fall…
The expectations your in-laws and extended family may have about you as a couple can easily cause undo stress between you and your future mate. Talking about possible challenges—before they occur—can help alleviate many difficulties in the future. The below dialoge between Hannah and Tim serves as an example of one real-life couple working through…
