I was 21 when James proposed to me. He was my first love. We knew we were created for each other. He was the one, I knew it. Without a doubt. We were young, in college, and giddy with excitement during our engagement. We heard all the usual advice from people about marriage: “Never go to…
I got lost on my first hike up the tallest mountain in the Northeastern United States. While I knew that “up” was always the right direction, at some point on the trail I took a wrong turn. I expected to meander along quaint streams in a flower-filled valley. Instead I climbed vertical rocks on all…
The crux of every marriage crisis is a lack of communication. Recently, I wrote a blog post here called, “How to Get Your Man to Talk.” I was encouraged to read the responses, not because I want other couples to experience the strain between a wordy wife and hushed-up husband, but because in the comments,…
Some of the differences you may have as a couple probably attracted you to one another initially, but when you live with those differences 24/7, they can also be frustrating, confusing, exasperating, and unnerving if you let them. Dealing with them well is very much about attitude. “When we went to the premarital classes, we…
Q: We haven’t even been married 2yrs yet and my husband is telling his friends he wants a divorce after every fight. Do you think he means it? What should I do? A (Gary Chapman): He probably is very discouraged because fighting is discouraging. No one wins in a fight. Even if you win the…
