Tanya and Daniel had been married for 3 years when they returned to my office for some help on a few conflicts they were having. I wasn’t surprised to hear they were having some issues. Marriage is a struggle. However, with this particular couple, during pre-marriage counseling, I’d highlighted 3-4 key themes they would need…
Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year holidays are often times of warm memories and happy family experiences. Just as often, however, it can be a time of extraordinary stress and dreaded conflict in the family. Some—especially young married couples—find this season one of being torn between the expectations (and sometimes downright demands) of parents and in-laws….
Q: How come when a wife cries during a stressful time it typically unsettles the husband—who suddenly will climb inside himself because HE is uncomfortable— instead of genuinely caring for what his wife is feeling? It just compounds the issue and makes it harder on both of us. A: This is rather a common phenomenon that, especially…
Q: How can a couple find ways to work around legitimate differences that sometimes are, by nature, hurtful to the other person? For instance, one spouse’s love language is quality time, but the other one has a highly social job and when at home needs most of his or her time alone in a quiet part…
Q: My husband and I read your book. We have agreed once again to work on our marriage. We have tried several times to work on our marriage, but he always reverts back to infidelity with different women. Even if I express his primary love language, do you think that he can change. He tells…
