This month my husband and I will celebrate a milestone—anniversary number one, a year that has been rich with new beginnings and filled with “firsts,” getting married, becoming homeowners, moving to another state, launching new careers, and embarking on this crazy, beautiful, blessed journey together! Before we got married, Zach and I realized that the…
Have you ever seen one of those t-shirts that has bride and groom stick figures with the words “Game Over” written above them? I’ve seen a few recently, and something about them just doesn’t sit well with me. In fact, I usually find myself completely irritated when I catch sight of one. After thinking about…
In our early dating days, my boyfriend (now my husband) and I liked to wander into a little church in Chicago, to sit in the light of the stained glass windows together and take time to pray. We loved this church, with its grand sweeping sanctuary and gothic arches; it was easy to feel in…
Sally was enraged that her husband, Bob, had completely shut down after a disagreement they’d had. She felt abandoned and alone, even punished by his silence. “Why won’t he talk to me?” she asked plaintively. But Bob had channeled his anger into quiet resignation, partly because he felt he was under siege by a wife…
First time emotional and sexual affairs are almost always accidental. They rarely start as an inappropriate relationship. The individuals involved are not “fishing” or looking to find an affair partner. In fact, they are usually committed to their spouse initially. So, if that’s true, how do these experiences happen? Is it irrational behavior? Does the…
