When you first get married, you normally think about all the “good” things. The love, attraction, joys you will celebrate together, etc. You think about the future babies you will have, trips taken together, someone to hold you when you feel sick, and someone to help you feel safe. There are times in a marriage…
A few years ago a young woman came up to me and shared that she was leaving her husband. I asked her why she was leaving, and this was her response: “I no longer love my husband. I just fell out of love.” Saddened, I asked, “How do you fall out of love?” She gave…
My mother and step-father got divorced after almost 29 years of marriage. She was 79 and he was 81! I had made arrangements with the Sheriff of the Court to meet him at the retirement home where my mom was staying in order to be there when he presented the divorce summons. He told me…
Oftentimes in marriage, there is a partner with a stronger personality–the “vocal representative” in the relationship. The person with the stronger personality is often the one who ends up being “boss.” Sometimes they give their opinion readily and expect it to be followed. Other times, their big personality simply is one that starts to rub…
In my previous article 3 Ways Apologizing Turns into Shifting Blame I mentioned how we never want to be wrong. Therefore, it makes it hard to apologize. We may even see it as a weakness. This week I was doing some reading in “Things I Wish I’d Known before We Got Married” by Gary Chapman….
