A: It would be very interesting to know whether this question is coming from a wife or husband. My guess is from a husband who is hearing his wife say, “I’m not interested.” Sexual intimacy is a very delicate matter. It’s at the very heart of our sexuality. In marriage, the ideal is that the sexual relationship would be mutually meaningful to each of us. If it is not, we ought to find out why. It’s certainly not a matter of trying to force a wife to have sex in a marriage. Let’s find out why he reluctance and lack of desire. Sometimes it’s a physical problem, an emotional problem or a relational problem. What’s going on that causes her not to want to be involved sexually? You’ll never find mutual sexual fulfillment if you don’t find the source of the problem and then address the problem.