To pursue or not pursue? That is the question that many ladies are asking in regards to finding themselves a man. Of course our feminism-infused society would either say, “You don’t need a man!” or, “Go after him if you want him! You are a strong woman who gets what she wants.” But is this the best advice for women who are out there trying to find a lifelong partner to exchange vows with?
Personally, I was raised with the idea that the man should be the one to step up and ask a girl out. My parents had some pretty strict rules for me and my two sisters about dating including: guys always needed to call us, they had to ask us a minimum of three days in advance for a date, he definitely had to pay for the date, and he always had to open the car door for us. Call our family old school, but I love the lessons I learned from my parents about dating. They weren’t trying to be restrictive and kill my love life. What they were doing was teaching me to set a precedent for how married life should one day be – with the man at the head of the house, and me in the supporting role.
Obviously this school of thought isn’t the most popular these days. However, I recently read an amazing two-part article by Paula Hendricks of TrueWoman.com titled Why Not Pursue Him? She reveals her own nine reasons why she feels women should allow the men to do the pursuing. Her candid and honest piece definitely gives food for thought about how the dating game is being played these days.
At the end of her sharing, she concludes with three great points saying:
Having said all this, I feel like I should say . . .
- Trusting God with your love life doesn’t mean everything will work out beautifully, or that you’ll get what you want. This isn’t about some sort of way to manipulate God.
- The fact that you and I are not pursuing guys does not mean that we can’t be friendly to them!
- There are no formulas. This is about growing in your relationship with God. Be sensitive to His Spirit’s leading.
What are your thoughts about these articles? Do you all have any personal experiences or stories about these types of situations?
