So we are in the age of social media. I’ve seen a lot of women’s posts over the last few years. We use our time in these forums to post status messages, fun little quotes, pinterest recipes, polls, and photos. But not all of our photos are simply “family photos” are they?
Time and time again, I’ve seen women post photos of men. OTHER men. Men that they are not married to. These men are celebrities or just what they’d refer to as “hotties.”
Usually, these men are shirtless. They have 6-pack abs and are in great physical shape. The photos are then followed by cute or “funny” sayings like….”oh, I’m sorry, what were you saying?” (As if they were distracted by the gorgeous man.)
Now, I’m a woman. A married woman. And just because I’m married, it doesn’t mean I can no longer see. I realize when someone is good looking. But, I think posting photos of other men is disrespectful to our husbands.
I know how I would feel if my husband posted a photo of a bikini babe and followed it up with a comment like, “Oh – were you talking to me? Sorry.” I’d be ticked off. Offended.
My job as a wife is to build up my husband. Encourage him, affirm him, honor him. I don’t believe I’d be honoring to him if I posted a photo of a male celebrity….or even talked about one, for that matter.
I personally, love it when I see women post pictures of their own spouses and say things like, “MY MAN” or “the love of my life.” Hey, even “My hottie” works! Can you imagine how the men feel when they see their wife publicly affirming them in this way? What a great way to claim them as your own and in the process, boost their self esteem!
I want my husband to feel proud that he’s married to me. I’m no supermodel, but I try to take good care of myself. Likewise, I know that he wants me to feel proud of him as well. Sure, we don’t have personal trainers or celebrity dieticians. We have REAL, flawed bodies. But that’s okay with me because I have someone who I can go through life with. Someone who is REAL, not just a chiseled photo. And believe me, there are days I need real!
I’d like to encourage all married women, or even women in a serious dating relationship to set the standard for honoring their partner both online and in real life. Let’s not encourage gloating over someone’s figure or body and let’s especially not do it at the cost of our special someone’s self worth.
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Dionna Sanchez is a freelance writer/blogger who is passionate about faith, family, and living a life of character. Dionna strives to be authentic yet gentle, joyful but intentional, and humble yet wise. She continues to learn each year how to be a better wife. Visit her blog at beautyinthestorm.com or connect on Facebook at facebook.com/dionnasanchezwriter
