Answer (Gary Chapman): I think the only place where I would see prenups might be fitting would be a couple who is 75 years old getting married for a second time. They both have considerable wealth and don’t feel comfortable with the other person’s children getting their wealth. But for most couples, particularly younger couples, I think prenups are a sign that says, “I don’t trust you and therefore we are going to put stipulations on this relationship.” That’s not marriage.
Marriage is a covenant that says: “what is yours is mine and what is mine is yours. We’re going to live life together, we’re equal partners in this relationship and we’re going to make no provisions for a divorce.” Prenups for young couples is simply making room for divorce and trying to be treated fairly. If that’s the feeling, you shouldn’t get married in the first place.
