A: If you are committed to marriage and the other person has lost interest in you, then thats a serious problem because you certainly don’t want to marry someone who has lost interest in you. Now sometimes what happens is the other person comes down off of the emotional high of the in love experience before you do; The average life span of being in love is two years.
If you’ve been dating for a while, maybe your fiancé has come down off that high and may even begin to wonder, “Should I marry him? I don’t have love feelings for them like I used to have.” This is where it is important to understand that romantic love has two phases: the “in love” phase and the “intentional” phase. The second phase is where we have to learn to speak the other person’s love language in order to keep emotional love in the relationship.
At this point, I suggest that the two of you read The 5 Love Languages and make sure that you understand each other’s love language. If you speak her language, you are likely to see emotional warmth return to the relationship. So read and discuss the book together, implement the concept, and then chances are she will have renewed emotional interest in you. However, if she doesn’t, it may well be a sign that you should not get married.
